Q. Which grief metaphor resonates with you? Do you have a different picture of your grief?
A. I have felt them all over the past 3-1/2 years but, lately, find myself in that place of life transition and well-composted soil.
While I will always miss my dad, Daddy, Mykel, and Mama, and will always grieve for them, I feel the healing and personal growth taking place as I've worked through these past few months. I feel and welcome the transition from daughter to matriarch of the family. I can find the light through the darkness.
I am growing, I am blooming, and I have been truly and fully blessed and enriched by those who have passed.
Q. What gives you comfort?
A. I am comforted by the memories of those who have gone before me. I am able to go inside myself and relive or simply remember some very special moments, and I have a treasure trove of photos and other physical reminders from and of those loved ones.
I also have a large and growing circle of family and friends that give me love and comfort when I need it, and know they will receive the same when they need it.
Q. What do you need at this time?
A. Warm, dry weather so I can finish the tasks Mama laid in my lap and fulfill the one wish I have for myself.
Q. How can you nurture connections with others?
A. By doing what has been given here and in my circle. Be open, willing to listen, and not be judgmental.
Q. How are you handling stressful situations?
A. By enjoying my life and living it to the fullest. We all have stress. I choose to handle each situation and move on from it.
Q. What coping strategies did your mother model for you? Do you wish to emulate her coping styles and/or do things differently?
A. I do emulate her coping styles. Figure out the problem, figure out how to solve it, solve it, let it go. If it can't be solved, let it go. I am loving, I am strong, and I am wise. And sometimes, crying is the only way to let it go.
Q. What words might your mother say to you with regards to honoring your grief and embracing life?
A. I taught you well.
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